As I’ve been re-watching Gilmore Girls, I’ve been feeling more and more like Rory Gilmore. Except I didn’t attend a private high school, wasn’t valedictorian, or go to an Ivy League school. But, I am an only child, majored in journalism during college, huge coffee drinker and have a close relationship with my parents. Not quite Lorelai and Rory close, but still close. Personality wise though I’m realizing I share a lot of the same traits Rory exemplifies, positive or negative.
When Rory is moving into Yale, she accuses Lorelai of not socializing her properly. Rory can be painfully shy at times, and I’m exactly the same way. I feel like this is a downside to being an only child. As a child, I got used to playing by myself or being around my parents. There wasn’t anyone to push me further out of my bubble. This also leads you to be a quiet kid all around. My teachers, bosses, coworkers, relatives, friends, the list goes on have all commented on how quiet I can be.
One criticism of Rory is that she is selfish and self-centered. It’s pretty clear throughout the show this is the case. And, as an only child, I will admit, I can be very selfish and self-centered. It’s not something I’m proud of, and something I’m trying to work on. It’s one of the things that is a blessing and a curse of being an only child. You can become very selfish (I’m terrible at sharing), but it can also make you fiercely independent. I’ll admit, I think about just myself a lot. This is a terrible trait about myself, and it is hard to work on.
But, also as in the reboot, we see Rory is failing and flailing at life. This is how I currently feel. Approaching 30, hoping I figure out things soon. Like Rory, I thought I would have some success in life right now, but I don’t have much to show for anything right now. I’m still trudging on like Rory. I hope to figure it out soon. Just without the messy romantic relationships, and the now infamous four last words of Gilmore Girls.