In a world of hashtags, selfies, and FOMO does social media cause us to be more negative? Now more than ever, there seem to be people who create online accounts just be trolls. People, who insist on making nasty comments online towards whatever the subject matter may be, even a photo of a kitten. But, there also seems to be a shift in younger children as well as teenagers making horrific comments online as well. It’s amazing to me how much of today’s youth lack empathy. For example, you can look at the comment sections of beauty gurus on YouTube calling them a litany of inappropriate names, or make comments about their looks. Few of the comments are actually constructive criticism. I’m using beauty gurus as an example since they seem to get a lot of hate from all walks of life, but also there are specific online communities created to gossip about them. These communities are essentially designed to rip apart these gurus even though they lay claim not to.
I’m guilty of thinking of some of these same comments, or going and reading through these online communities. Through these online communities, it just creates a cesspool of hate and negativity. After reading through some of these communities, I start to think some horrible thoughts about these people I’ve never met. To me, that’s not healthy. More than ever, I think it’s important to start looking for the positives in life instead of always grasping onto the negative. More and more, I’ve been going through my YouTube subscription list and unsubscribing from beauty gurus I’m realizing I don’t particularly care for. There’s no reason for me to continue to have these people pop up in my feed if all I’m going to do is “hate watch” these gurus. It’s a waste of my time, but also why watch something just so you can pick it apart? It makes no sense to me. Does this make some people feel good or better about themselves? They all claim it comes from a place of love, but I would never tell my friend her fillers make her look ridiculous. Yes, I might think that in my head, but I’m not going to tear apart my friend for something that might make her feel more confident. That’s horrible to do to a person.
Being behind a screen makes it so much easier to be cruel to people. I’ve always been curious if the people who participate in these online communities, would they say the horrible things they say online to the person’s face? My guess is probably not. Just like you wouldn’t tell your friend their filler looks horrible. Sure, saying someone’s eyeshadow looks patchy could be constructive criticism, but there are people who say that just to be nasty. Is your eyeshadow always perfect? Mine sure as hell isn’t. Are these comments really necessary to make? I don’t think so. If you don’t like a guru, don’t watch, it’s as simple as that. Also, don’t take part in the online discussion of endlessly ripping apart these gurus. It’s not necessary to discuss a women’s weight, or how ugly the person is, or how they pronounce a certain word. It’s just ridiculous. I’m going to make more of an effort to remove myself from reading these discussions and work on bringing more positivity to my life.